When Life Has You By The Throat

Find solutions, redesign, adapt and modify your environment to thrive.

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When life has you by the throat, find solutions, redesign your environment, and modify.

What’s your most significant aggravation? Is it noise, crowds, socializing?

Is it lights, sounds, close proximity to others, and communication? It is for me.

Sit down and write out what struggles you have and analyze where you have the most significant challenges. You know, those moments when you want to scream at the top of your lungs or throw the coffee mug across the room.

It’s funny how major struggles and challenges with a timeline involved, we somehow manage to conquer. But a minor thing like an itchy clothing tag can take us to unbearable overwhelm. Like many relentless mosquitoes biting at your skin, clothing, temperature, lights, sound, crowds, touching, communication, and surprises can be the downfall.

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Overheated Leopard:

What’s your nickname? Cold reptile or overheated leopard? I’m in the overheated category. It’s a heatwave every day for me.

If it is too hot in a room and I don’t have clothing that can help me stay cool, I’m not going to function. I will collapse. I can’t tolerate heat, especially high humidity. If this is you? Can you adapt with clothes, fans, and items to keep you cool?

At work, I have two or three fans going simultaneously and wear loose-fit, cool-to-the-touch clothing. I wear slip-on and off shoes and walk about barefoot most of the workday.

Where I live, it reaches temperatures above 100 degrees. By 1 p.m., no one at work can function in the heat, but we have to anyway. I know my body can faint and drop when the heat gets intolerable, so I plan to sit and doing quiet work during the hottest hours of the day.

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Death Valley Glare:

Does indoor light blare into your eyes like one walking through Death Valley on the hottest day of the year?

Do you find yourself needing sunglasses indoors or turning lights off and preferring to work in the dark?

I can’t tolerate lights either. I keep the lights off, and I wear dark sunglasses all day. If I don’t, I will get completely overwhelmed. In public places where you can’t control lighting, wear sunglasses.

Do you find yourself avoiding crowded, noisy places?

Wear specialized earbuds that dim the sound. I use IQbuds. I couldn’t do my job without them.

Crowds are a huge issue. I haven’t figured out how to survive a crowd other than to keep a distance and only be in a crowded situation for as little as possible. My maximum time in a store is about 15 minutes. I can’t handle being in a store for very long.

Stores and crowded situations I try to plan. I go when it is the least crowded and noisy. I am very strategic. Don’t waste any time getting in and out of a crowded environment. Plan ahead.

If you are unfamiliar with the environment, first find an employee and ask them to help you.

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Bug Crawl:

How do you feel when someone physically leans or rubs on your unexpectedly? I find myself wiggling away. If I’m overwhelmed, it will feel like little bugs crawling all over me.

I have to be ready for it. Where I work, students run up and grab hold of me. I find myself avoiding known huggers and creating a considerable distance between myself and others. I prefer online meetings for this reason.

Do you find yourself drained after a social engagement or avoiding them?

It requires a lot of planning and time for me to prepare for communication. I’ve given up on it and now use an AAC device (Alternative Augmented Communication) and American Sign Language (ASL) for communication.

I also limit my social engagement time. Instead of 3 hours, I limit it to 45 minutes or less.

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